Girls grow up in an environment where they’re told they have to look a certain way in order to be pretty. We’re always surrounded by unrealistic beauty standards and ridiculously high societal expectations, and for what? Frankly, I never got it! Why was there even a standard in the first place? Why were we ever told that some features/bodies are more beautiful than others? Isn’t the whole point of us being human that we’re all different and unique in our own ways?
The reality, though, is that standards do exist and they influence us from a really young age in more ways than we can count. We end up being insecure about aspects of our bodies, mostly the ones we can’t easily change, and one of those is our boobs. Personally, I have yet to meet a girl who was not embarrassed about her bra size at one point in her life. That’s pretty messed up; we really need to stop being embarrassed and I’ll tell you why.
Let me ask you this; who really benefits from us being embarrassed about our bra sizes? When you think it through, you’ll realize that the only people who gain anything from our insecurities concerning our bra sizes are those who capitalize off of them. They sell us all these products, solutions if you will, to make us feel more confident and profit from that. But it’s never really about boosting girls’ confidence or making them feel more comfortable in their own skin, it’s always about profit! So, fuck it, I simply refuse to let co-operations benefit from my embarrassment of my bra size anymore.
As for actual confidence, this is something we’re going to have to work on on our own. We all need to practice loving ourselves more and carrying ourselves with more poise. We often get caught up trying to appeal to other people’s liking but striving for external validation, whether from men or women, is pretty useless in the long run. Our bodies belong to us and they’re not meant for anyone’s consumption. Loving our bodies and specifically being comfortable with our bra sizes is an internal process that takes a lot of time and effort, but is worth it at the end of the day.
I know it’s hard sometimes especially because the media we consume doesn’t really help. For so long movies and TV shows have over sexualized women with larger boobs and at the same time infantilized women with smaller boobs. It’s almost as if there’s no ‘winning’ here. But you know what, this wouldn’t be the first time that the media ruins our perception of our bodies. So again, why are we still paying attention to this bullshit? It’s about time we stop.
Finally, I leave you with the reminder that every part of you goes perfectly with you as a whole. Your chest goes perfectly well with the rest of your body and that is something you’re going to have to trust me on! Remember that there is no logical reason for anyone to feel embarrassed of how small, or big, their boobs are. I know it’s a cliché thing to say but we’re all perfect just the way we are.